Its all coming back
Thrown back on the face, just when you think it’s all over. The bad memories, constant fear, growing pains, emotional blackmails, worries, the nagging feeling, nightmares...
What am I talking about??? Relate it to who ever makes you feel that bad.
Love and concern often share mixed feelings with power and control. Why do I say that? Well, when the full understanding of "love/concern" is not realized, it turns out to be an empowering emotion that can't be comprehended and thus takes into another shape (none other than control or power trip). It could further on to obsession or possessiveness, which could be far more hurtful.
There is one person in most cases (more than one, is some cases) in your life, who has left you with some kind of hard emotions that linger on…. Trying to get over it, work with it, is a wise thing to do, but its often easier said than done. Some how they/things are in your life and you got to deal with them!!!
Confronting- might help, but what if they refuse to understand?! What if the effect is like you are talking to a stone wall that can’t absorb anything?! At the end of what you thought was the most intelligent and logical conversation that you have ever made, what if that person hasn’t listened to a word of what you have said. Hearing it, maybe, but not understood the essence of it and goes back to square one. Same nagging tone and “you know nothing, just listen to me” attitude. Sigh!!! What then?!
Ignoring – works!!! But if you care about that person (in spite of all the trauma he/she has put you through) this method doesn’t work. Only end up hurting yourself again by feeling guilty.
Selfish – works well too!!! But then, we got to explain the art of being selfish which is nothing but “taking care of yourself”. Seldom do people define being selfish that way. Its got a whole negative concept to it and I don’t want to get into that right now.
Living with it – painful, depressing, self-pity etc. Totally unhealthy which makes you weak in the mind and start losing faith in yourself. Not good at all.
Fighting it- in a way that brings fruitful effects. It requires patience (explaining it time and again), perseverance to make it work, having an adult-adult conversation, reasoning, being positive, not letting energies down and strength to deal with it.
Well, it does get tiring at the end of the day. Sigh…and there it is, another day to go on living, to go on fighting and to go on dealing with it.
What am I talking about??? Relate it to who ever makes you feel that bad.
Love and concern often share mixed feelings with power and control. Why do I say that? Well, when the full understanding of "love/concern" is not realized, it turns out to be an empowering emotion that can't be comprehended and thus takes into another shape (none other than control or power trip). It could further on to obsession or possessiveness, which could be far more hurtful.
There is one person in most cases (more than one, is some cases) in your life, who has left you with some kind of hard emotions that linger on…. Trying to get over it, work with it, is a wise thing to do, but its often easier said than done. Some how they/things are in your life and you got to deal with them!!!
Confronting- might help, but what if they refuse to understand?! What if the effect is like you are talking to a stone wall that can’t absorb anything?! At the end of what you thought was the most intelligent and logical conversation that you have ever made, what if that person hasn’t listened to a word of what you have said. Hearing it, maybe, but not understood the essence of it and goes back to square one. Same nagging tone and “you know nothing, just listen to me” attitude. Sigh!!! What then?!
Ignoring – works!!! But if you care about that person (in spite of all the trauma he/she has put you through) this method doesn’t work. Only end up hurting yourself again by feeling guilty.
Selfish – works well too!!! But then, we got to explain the art of being selfish which is nothing but “taking care of yourself”. Seldom do people define being selfish that way. Its got a whole negative concept to it and I don’t want to get into that right now.
Living with it – painful, depressing, self-pity etc. Totally unhealthy which makes you weak in the mind and start losing faith in yourself. Not good at all.
Fighting it- in a way that brings fruitful effects. It requires patience (explaining it time and again), perseverance to make it work, having an adult-adult conversation, reasoning, being positive, not letting energies down and strength to deal with it.
Well, it does get tiring at the end of the day. Sigh…and there it is, another day to go on living, to go on fighting and to go on dealing with it.
posted by Illusion at 7:50 AM
3 Comments:
I hear you girl
I feel you woman
heart to heart
pain to pain.
keep those words
in touch
with your feelings
love again
live again
smile always
laugh always
be yourself
your yourself gaya-self
once again
again and again
forever and again.
Observing it, being conscious of it & more importantly not trying to comprehend it but just observing it - might help. But they say it's a long way down this road. When 'I' & 'you' & all other such words cease to exist, pure understanding of the situation may arise, putting one in touch with his/her higher self. Most often this happens, but the ego is quick to stake it's claim to such insight. The accompanying feeling of accomplishment is like a mug of beer; put you on your feet, make you feel light & make you think you have arrived. Only, just like the buzz of the beer that fades through the night, you wake up next day to realize the bus hasn't moved much since yesterday.
But hey, the beer was good & the party was swell, so we continue to dance.
Ok, this one's the real Satchidananda
"Your ultimate goal is to be happy. Where is that happiness? Within you. If you want to have permanent happiness, it will never come from outside. If somebody makes you happy today, the same person will make you unhappy tomorrow. You are happiness and peace personified. Find that happiness and peace within you."
—His Holiness Sri Swami Satchidananda
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